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Self-Care Tips for Expecting and New Parents

Having a baby is life-changing. It can deliver a lot of love, joy and fulfilment but it can also create demands and responsibilities that feel relentless and scary. Sometimes, parents have difficulty adjusting to the many physical, emotional, psychological and social challenges of parenting.

On the helpline, we hear from parents who are consumed by caring for their children and doing a wonderful job of it, but self-care has become a low priority.

We know that stress, interrupted sleep and 24-hour demands can take their toll, but they become more manageable when we are able to care for and nurture ourselves too. Keep reading for some tips on different aspects of self care...


For many parents, interrupted sleep can take a mental, physical and emotional toll. Some general rules for sleep hygiene include:

  • Going to bed at the same time each day

  • Avoiding exercise before bed

  • Making the bedroom as restful an environment as possible

  • Avoiding screen time or other stimulating activities just before bed

  • Avoiding caffeine and other stimulants in the evening

  • Trying a warm bath or shower two hours before bed, to regulate your body temperature for sleep

  • If you can't sleep, getting up and doing something quiet in another room

Quick naps can improve your alertness and help in decision-making, creativity and sensory perception. Short naps, such as 20 minutes, are less likely to disrupt your sleep at night.


Some parents find themselves snacking on convenience food. We know that setting realistic goals helps. Healthy, home-cooked food for every meal may not be an achievable goal, so set goals for your family that are manageable and allow for something easier, such as eggs on toast or toasted sandwiches, on difficult days.

Exercise and Getting Outdoors

For some people, regular physical exercise is highly beneficial. We know that it can increase serotonin levels - a hormone that contributes to general happiness and wellbeing. We also know that getting out of the house in to sunshine and fresh air can lift mood and boost vitamin D,

However, setting achievable goals is important. These goals depend on personal circumstances, previous exercise history and physical recovery from birth.

It can be helpful to schedule in exercise time. When your baby is small, this could be as simple as aiming for a short walk in the morning with the baby in the pram.

For some Mums, childbirth impacts on pelvic floor function. Physiotherapists can help with assessment, treatment and strengthening exercises if this is an issue. If you have any concerns about your physical recovery, it is important to consult a doctor before you undertake any strenuous exercise after birth.

Exercise may also mean something gentler to some people, such as breathing exercises, meditation or a yoga class. Some people find these beneficial.

Many websites and phone apps provide short guided meditations or relaxation exercises, some specifically for new parents.

Social Network

Being at home with a baby after years of being in a busy workplace can be an isolating experience for some parents. New and existing social networks can help you feel connected to other adults.

New mothers' groups and playgroups are one avenue. Others include free activities such as story time at the local library, while other people seek connection through online groups, such as supportive Facebook pages.

If you are struggling with postnatal mental health issues, there might be a supported playgroup you might be able to attend in your area. These are often run by a health worker or social worker and attended by other parents who have been struggling.

Time Out

Time out means different things to everyone. But in general, it is important that parents who are primary carers have a break from the caring role at times. We speak to many parents who experience barriers to this. Sometimes the barrier is a time constraint, sometimes it is driven by a parent feeling guilty or feeling like they shouldn't need time out from their family.

Some families find the best way to create time out is to structure it, i.e. a set time or activity each week for the primary carer. The additional benefit is that the other parent or carer gets one-on-one time with the baby or child, which can also help with their bonding and confidence. Generally, a parent needing time to themselves gets the most benefit if the rest of the family is out of the house, or if the parent can go out themselves.

Some ideas for nurturing time out are:

  • A class or activity outside the home

  • Engaging in a hobby/craft that is enjoyable

  • Taking a relaxing bath

  • Going for a walk

  • Going shopping

  • Listening to music

  • Reading a book/magazine

  • Watching a movie

Mental Health/Professional Support

For parents, recognising that you are struggling is the first step. For some, this may manifest as obvious symptoms of anxiety, depression or other issues such as obsessive compulsive disorder. For others, it may be more subtle, just a sense of not quite coping, feeling low in energy or not feeling yourself.

Callers to the helpline often comment on their relief at being able to talk about what is on their mind. For some people, it is helpful to talk to family or friends. But often, for varied reasons, this is not helpful or possible.

Discussing your concerns with a mental health professional or a helpline such as PANDA is a good option for these cases. It is helpful, if possible, to build a positive relationship with a local doctor. New parents with babies often visit their doctor for the baby's sake but we encourage all callers to connect for their own sake too. Doctors are often the first point of professional contact for mental health concerns.

Self care is partly about reaching out to others when we need it. There are other options for professional support beyond a doctor - facilitated playgroups, psychologists and counsellors - that your doctor or PANDA can help you access.


PANDA National Helpline

1300 726 306


Originally published in Connected Caregiving Spring 2022


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